Carrying contraceptives

A friend and I was talking about this earlier. I would like to hear from the fathers here in the forum.

I am not a father, i've always been too careful for that - don't get me wrong i was a bit of a lad but when i was young it was an absolute disgrace for a woman to become pregnant out of wedlock, but unfortunately these days in my country Christian values don't count for anything. There are many "good" girls i'm sure but many of them seem to behave like alley cats - flying off to Ibiza for 2 weeks of drunken sex. I have heard from many sources that English girls at home and abroad are promiscuous and don't care what they do or who they do it with, some of the stories i hear make me ashamed. If i was a father i'd be worried to let my daughter out the house. Many parents encourage their children to use condoms but many of them see that as a license for promiscuity. Call me old fashioned but Christian values could save a lot of misery and heartache, just watch Jeremy Kyle any day, drink, drugs and promiscuity. Well there ends the sermon fom MF!

OK, I'm not a father (or even a mother...), but I'd like to have my say all the same. You know, the thing is, you can buy your son condoms, but you're never going to be sure that he uses them.... As far as I know, there are many men who don't like using them, although they have an even more important function nowadays (as well as in the past) than preventing pregnancy. It's not a question of buying them, but rather one related to upbringing and values.

Now, I don't consider myself a Christian anymore, but I have a deep respect for my fellow people. Therefore, I think that using people as mere sex objects is not a positive thing by any means. I'm not the kind of person who says there has always to be love - but even so-called 'recreational' sex need not be done in a way that demeans either yourself or the other person. I'd hate to wake up in the morning beside a man whose name I didn't even know because I was too drunk the night before.

That said, I don't think that marriage is that relevant. If two people marry for the wrong reasons (and there are quite a few that still do that), the fact that they are married doesn't make their having sex together righter than two unmarried people who love, respect and care for each other. But then, not being religious, I think marriage is only a social contract, which should have no bearing on private matters such as sex.

To be serious...when I was young and had unprotected sex the worst that happened was a rash, some itching and embarrasing trips to the doctors. The worst that can happen now is you can die (of AIDS).

I don't want children of anykind. But if I had one, I would buy the contraceptives myself and give them to her - him. Too much people in the world. Everyone thinks about their uwn genetic material as a Jewel of evilution; meanwhile, we are running out of rice...

Thanks... keep em coming.The views of  Ghost Rider and Mystic Fred stands out for me, at this point.

I don't have a child, but when I do I will take him to the store, buy him condoms, and make sure he can have safe sex. Sex is a completly natural thing, and the human body has urges and such. I wouldn't encourage it, but if it happens I would rather have him not getting a girl pregnant. Simple as that.  

Edited by The Wizard - July 25 2006 at 10:29

Teens need to be educated about their options instead of being scared into not having sex.  The fact is, they know about sex, they're going to do it.  It's been this way since time immemorial.  It even happens to kids brought up with the most Christian and conservative of values.  Withholding contraceptives, birth control, and education about how to have sex safely and respectfully can only damage them.  I wouldn't want my kids entering adulthood thinking sex is something dirty and evil or something to be feared.  They're more likely to have dangerous unprotected sex if they are not educated and prepared, instead of doing it safely with someone they love.


also.... I won't even touch your comment on same-sex issues.... for now

GoldenSpiral wrote: Teens need to be educated about their options instead of being scared into not having sex. Agreed  The fact is, they know about sex, they're going to do it.The problem is, where or from whom did they learn about it.  It's been this way since time immemorial.  It even happens to kids brought up with the most Christian and conservative of values. Agreed  Withholding contraceptives, birth control, and education about how to have sex safely and respectfully can only damage them.  I wouldn't want my kids entering adulthood thinking sex is something dirty and evil or something to be feared. Hell Yeah!  They're more likely to have dangerous unprotected sex if they are not educated and prepared, instead of doing it safely with someone they love. Agreed also.... I won't even touch your comment on same-sex issues.... for now  A different topic

Majestic_Mayhem wrote: Hey Bob... Long time no see bro!           Would you do the same thing for your daughter?(if you had one)I mean, would you let her have pills or something ?@ Wizzie