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Jake Kobrin 
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 Topic: IS it better to be lonely than broken hearted???
Posted: May 23 2011 at 04:21 |
I've got to question Mr Anderson on his claim that it's better to be the owner of a lonely heart than that of a broken heart. (not a good song, I know...) I've let my heart rot in loneliness for years and well... Feels bad man.  I've never had my heart broken but I can't imagine it being worse.
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harmonium.ro
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Posted: May 23 2011 at 04:26 |
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I love the song.
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Blacksword
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Posted: May 23 2011 at 04:34 |
I reckon Anderson is right. Broken is worse than lonely. Has been for me anyway, but everyone is different. I like the song too. Got me into Yes! 
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Jim Garten
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Posted: May 23 2011 at 05:10 |
It's the old, old saying: better to have loved & lost, than never to have loved at all.  etc
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topographicbroadways
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Posted: May 23 2011 at 05:32 |
Why is it a bad song? I quite like it, cool chords nice vocals and a good solo in the middle. Rabin was good, though a little annoying at times.
And I don't know why anybody would deprive themselves of happiness just out of fear of loss. Broken heart wins. Though i've experienced neither fully, though I think everybody has some experience with loneliness
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Epignosis
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Posted: May 23 2011 at 05:55 |
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I really like the song.
However, my experience tells me that loneliness is far worse than being brokenhearted.
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toroddfuglesteg
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Posted: May 23 2011 at 06:25 |
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Being lonely is being heartbroken every day from puberty to the last breath of air.
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Mr ProgFreak
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Posted: May 23 2011 at 07:07 |
How about both? There are many who are broken-hearted and, as a result, live a lonely life. Listen to Eyes of a Stranger by Queensryche. 
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Blacksword
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Posted: May 23 2011 at 07:32 |
 Jim Garten wrote:
It's the old, old saying: better to have loved & lost, than never to have loved at all.
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Debatable.. Depends on the individual and how they respond to loss. My response to 'loss' frightened me..and others around me. It wasn't a healthy response, and some would say disproportionate to the actual crisis, so I tend to avoid situations where I may be let down like that again, as I've clearly got a few problems with my 'wiring'.. 
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Ultimately bored by endless ecstasy!
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manofmystery
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Posted: May 23 2011 at 08:21 |
Both suck but as Frank Zappa put it:
Broken hearts are for a****les
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The Truth
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Posted: May 23 2011 at 10:08 |
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I have both right now, kind of, and neither is desirable.
Edited by The Truth - May 23 2011 at 10:18
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TheGazzardian
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Posted: May 23 2011 at 10:12 |
Jim Garten wrote:
It's the old, old saying: better to have loved & lost, than never to have loved at all.
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Right now I feel this way, I had to put my pet cat down yesterday and my heart keeps breaking to remember she's not here anymore (she's been my constant companion since I was 7 years old). But I would never wish she hadn't been in my life.
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Ricochet
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Posted: May 23 2011 at 10:22 |
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I've been severely brokenhearted and because of that I am now incapable of love and also discontetful regarding amorous relationships in general.
Loneliness is a bliss, however. I won't deny there are moments when it hurts, but I've been able to ease through them. I've also experienced a sublime form of loneliness.
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Prog Geo
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Posted: May 23 2011 at 10:23 |
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It is better to be lonely! But the best thing is not being alive.
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toroddfuglesteg
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Posted: May 23 2011 at 10:44 |
Ricochet wrote:
Loneliness is a bliss, however. I won't deny there are moments when it hurts, but I've been able to ease through them. I've also experienced a sublime form of loneliness.
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I think you misunderstand the question..... or maybe I misunderstand the question ? From what I understand, you are talking about solitude. I share your view here. Solitude is something we can choose and enjoy. I agree with your post and have made the same experiences in life. I have had my feelings severe burnt and have voluntary retreated to a life in solitude. Involuntary solitude = loneliness.
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Negoba
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Posted: May 23 2011 at 10:47 |
Would I rather live on gruel and water or have my skin rubbed raw in gravel??? hmmm...
I'd rather have a mattress destroying bird singing relationship with a gorgeous brilliant lover for the rest of my life.
Ideally, I try to move my life toward my best dreams to the extent I am able. Giving more energy to loneliness or sadness only strengthens their grip.
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You are quite a fine person, and I am very fond of you. But you are only quite a little fellow, in a wide world, after all.
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Posted: May 23 2011 at 10:59 |
Mr ProgFreak wrote:
How about both? There are many who are broken-hearted and, as a result, live a lonely life. Listen to Eyes of a Stranger by Queensryche. |
How many times must I live this tragedy? How many more lies will they tell me? All I want is the same as everyone. Why am I here, and for how long?
And I raise my head and stare...
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Posted: May 23 2011 at 11:16 |
toroddfuglesteg wrote:
Ricochet wrote:
Loneliness is a bliss, however. I won't deny there are moments when it hurts, but I've been able to ease through them. I've also experienced a sublime form of loneliness.
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I think you misunderstand the question..... or maybe I misunderstand the question ? From what I understand, you are talking about solitude. I share your view here. Solitude is something we can choose and enjoy. I agree with your post and have made the same experiences in life. I have had my feelings severe burnt and have voluntary retreated to a life in solitude. Involuntary solitude = loneliness. |
Ah, I see. If it's about suffering, then I guess it doesn't apply. Preferring solitude isn't the whole picture for me, though. I meet the criterias of social inadequacy. I do not live in solitude, nor have I willingly retreated in it. Romantically, I do not see why I didn't respond that I'd rather be lonely (even for good) than brokenhearted (again).
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Queen By-Tor
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Posted: May 23 2011 at 11:51 |
Oh good lord, yes. Being broken hearted really does suck worse than being lonely. Don't worry - it'll break eventually, and then you'll realize that being alone can be fun! 
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lazland
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Posted: May 23 2011 at 12:07 |
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I was relatively happy single, had my heart broken a few times, and then found perfect married bliss. Life is what you make of it.
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