Any other 20s aged female prog lovers besides me?
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Topic: Any other 20s aged female prog lovers besides me?
Posted By: khonfusedkhemist
Subject: Any other 20s aged female prog lovers besides me?
Date Posted: July 31 2019 at 22:55
I am in my twenties, female, and my whole life I have listened to rock, with a particular love for 90's alternative & grunge, and the beloved progressive rock.
But young females interested in prog seem hard to find? I've never had a friend to share my love of prog.. My parents go very hard in the scene, I've attended countless shows since birth, even the very last Nearfest etc. It flows through my blood at this point. Unfortunately, almost no one else young around me seems to have any interest or they don't understand it.
Prog Favorites include: King Crimson Anathema Phideax Renaissance Porcupine Tree or most of Steven Wilsons work Peter Gabriel Consider the Source Shoutout to Mattias for Anglagard and Necromonkey
Plenty more beyond
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Posted By: Quinino
Date Posted: August 01 2019 at 03:37
Welcome to the forum !
(I would put you in contact with my youngest but he recently turned 180 and now only listens to hip hop and such  - he used to listen to Anathema, Transatlantic, Yes, ...)
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Posted By: tempest_77
Date Posted: August 01 2019 at 12:05
Welcome to the forums! I'm 19 and non-binary and also love both alternative rock and prog rock.
I listen to most of the artists on your list but the ones that I absolutely love are King Crimson and Porcupine Tree. Anathema's We're Here Because We're Here and Renaissance's Scheherazade are also favorites of mine, as is some of Peter Gabriel's work.
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Posted By: chopper
Date Posted: August 02 2019 at 04:19
Quinino wrote:
Welcome to the forum !
(I would put you in contact with my youngest but he recently turned 180 and now only listens to hip hop and such  - he used to listen to Anathema, Transatlantic, Yes, ...)
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Your youngest is 180! How old is your oldest?
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Posted By: Atavachron
Date Posted: August 02 2019 at 04:36
^ I was gonna say, that's incredible. And you're right Jose, 180 is a bit too old for a girl in her twenties.
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Posted By: Icarium
Date Posted: August 02 2019 at 05:16
if your a redwood tree 180 is quite young
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Posted By: Quinino
Date Posted: August 02 2019 at 05:19
LOL my poor english failed me miserably - I meant to say he turned around 180 degrees from his past musical tastes, and the sentence came out totally equivocal - sorry for the false alarm LOL
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Posted By: Snicolette
Date Posted: August 02 2019 at 07:26
Quinino wrote:
Welcome to the forum !
(I would put you in contact with my youngest but he recently turned 180 and now only listens to hip hop and such  - he used to listen to Anathema, Transatlantic, Yes, ...)
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I predict that he'll return eventually....
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Posted By: Snicolette
Date Posted: August 02 2019 at 07:29
Welcome to the forums....My son is mid-20's and also enjoys the depth of music that you do. You will not find a majority of people in your age group who do, but they are out there. Just listen to who you want and who you find compelling. You will eventually find others who do, too, this was a pretty smart choice of a place to ask. And kudos to you for following your ears and not those of the crowd.
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Posted By: Vompatti
Date Posted: August 02 2019 at 07:37
I used to know a female who listened to prog but she moved to Lahti.
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Posted By: Nogbad_The_Bad
Date Posted: August 02 2019 at 07:49
Welcome aboard!
My 26 year old daughter is a Big prog fan, particularly the avant, I may be to blame, she's been to Nearfest, ProgDay and RIO and a bunch of concerts. The artist Emme Phyzema on here is a 20 something female artist from Ohio, met her at last years RIO where she was there as a fan. Checkout her music on bandcamp, good stuff.
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Posted By: Argo2112
Date Posted: August 02 2019 at 08:24
Welcome. It's nice to see young people that appreciate prog. (lots of old geezers like me here!) Enjoy the forum!
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Posted By: Nogbad_The_Bad
Date Posted: August 02 2019 at 08:39
Progdaughter at RIO

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Posted By: Quinino
Date Posted: August 02 2019 at 09:22
My 23 years old daughter is a fan of https://www.allmusic.com/artist/king-gizzard-the-lizard-wizard-mn0003085959" rel="nofollow - King Gizzard & the Lizard Wizard (she loves grunge too)
(I believe the band has been approved for inclusion here at PA)
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Posted By: micky
Date Posted: August 02 2019 at 12:28
Nogbad_The_Bad wrote:
Progdaughter at RIO
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 great pic Ian!!! and yeah.. prog daughter is legend...
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Posted By: micky
Date Posted: August 02 2019 at 12:40
khonfusedkhemist wrote:
But young females interested in prog seem hard to find? I've never had a friend to share my love of prog.. My parents go very hard in the scene, I've attended countless shows since birth, even the very last Nearfest etc. It flows through my blood at this point. Unfortunately, almost no one else young around me seems to have any interest or they don't understand it.
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Well welcome to the forum... interesting dilemma you have there. One that we often hear just as much from young men. Digging all that hip hop sh*t and wanting to be hip and cool.. which well.. this music largely is NOT hahahha.
Dear... one thing I think you should consider. Music is very much a personal thing.. you don't really need friends to share a love of.. what matter is how that music afflect you and speaks to you personally and perhaps it is just me. That is a terribly difficult concept to verbalize.. to try to explain to others. Perhaps it is just me and why I generally suck as a reviewer.. some do perhaps have that gift.. but think it a rare one.
If you do feel the need to share the love you have the right place.. but don't lose sight of what it is really important.. your personal connection and experiences with that music.
and I may add.. I've seen many a young lady at prog shows.. what I think is rather common though, especiailly in the non hip-hop category which is more a cultural thing than a musical thing.. is for many in the younger generation.. genres.. are really quite irrelevant.
I rememeber making this point at a prog show my wife went to.. we were seated right next to a bunch of rather.. young..  ladies.. who probably had zero concept or notion that what they were seeing was considered prog. They were there.. and loving the concert simply because it was great music.
something perhaps to ponder.. and again.. welcome to the site.
------------- The Pedro and Micky Experience - When one no longer requires psychotropics to trip
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Posted By: Raff
Date Posted: August 02 2019 at 12:44
The owner of this blog is a Dutch woman in her 20's, and a huge prog fan (though she likes stuff I don't particularly care for: https://notyourtypicaldutch.wordpress.com/" rel="nofollow - https://notyourtypicaldutch.wordpress.com/
She is Dutch, but lives in Milwaukee. I am sure she is also a member here, I don't think she's been around lately. She's on Facebook though, in case you want to contact her there. Unfortunately, though I am a woman, I could easily be your mother  . Female prog fans are rare, but young female prog fans are almost non-existent. Anyway, since you're from Maryland, you could do worse than visit the legendary Orion Studios when they resume their prog showcases in the fall.
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Posted By: Atavachron
Date Posted: August 02 2019 at 13:20
That is a terrific photo, Ian.
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Posted By: someone_else
Date Posted: August 02 2019 at 14:05
20s aged female prog lovers are a rare species. My daughter, who is spending her last days before going 24, sticks at a certain distance: she likes the Beatles and Muse.
Raff wrote:
The owner of this blog is a Dutch woman in her 20's, and a huge prog fan (though she likes stuff I don't particularly care for: https://notyourtypicaldutch.wordpress.com/" rel="nofollow - https://notyourtypicaldutch.wordpress.com/
She is Dutch, but lives in Milwaukee. I am sure she is also a member here, I don't think she's been around lately. She's on Facebook though, in case you want to contact her there. Unfortunately, though I am a woman, I could easily be your mother  . Female prog fans are rare, but young female prog fans are almost non-existent. Anyway, since you're from Maryland, you could do worse than visit the legendary Orion Studios when they resume their prog showcases in the fall.
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http://www.progarchives.com/forum/member_profile.asp?PF=49335" rel="nofollow - She has turned 30 recently. She has launched http://www.progarchives.com/forum/search_results_posts.asp?SearchID=20190802140117&KW=" rel="nofollow - a few blogs here on PA some years ago. Her greatest exploit I remember was a 100-minute interview with Big Big Train's David Longdon.
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Posted By: AEProgman
Date Posted: August 02 2019 at 14:54
^^^^ Yes, great photo Ian!
Glad to see some young people of any gender take an interest in prog of old and new, but females are rare here.
Welcome to the site Rayne and I do like your member profile name of "knonfusedkhemist". That could almost be a new King Crimson album title with emphasis on the K  .
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Posted By: khonfusedkhemist
Date Posted: August 02 2019 at 15:06
Nogbad_The_Bad wrote:
Progdaughter at RIO
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I have also been to ProgDay and I have the same exact shirt that your daughter is wearing!
Something is funny here though... only one response has been from some who is actually in their 20's it seems. Although I didn't look at profiles, only read comments. And half of the posts are talking about their boys in prog!
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Posted By: khonfusedkhemist
Date Posted: August 02 2019 at 15:07
Snicolette wrote:
And kudos to you for following your ears and not those of the crowd. |
It is hard to follow the ears of the crowd when the music of the crowd sounds like sh*t. No offense to the rest of the world.
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Posted By: khonfusedkhemist
Date Posted: August 02 2019 at 15:22
micky wrote:
khonfusedkhemist wrote:
But young females interested in prog seem hard to find? I've never had a friend to share my love of prog.. My parents go very hard in the scene, I've attended countless shows since birth, even the very last Nearfest etc. It flows through my blood at this point. Unfortunately, almost no one else young around me seems to have any interest or they don't understand it.
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Well welcome to the forum... interesting dilemma you have there. One that we often hear just as much from young men. Digging all that hip hop sh*t and wanting to be hip and cool.. which well.. this music largely is NOT hahahha.
Dear... one thing I think you should consider. Music is very much a personal thing.. you don't really need friends to share a love of.. what matter is how that music afflect you and speaks to you personally and perhaps it is just me. That is a terribly difficult concept to verbalize.. to try to explain to others. Perhaps it is just me and why I generally suck as a reviewer.. some do perhaps have that gift.. but think it a rare one.
If you do feel the need to share the love you have the right place.. but don't lose sight of what it is really important.. your personal connection and experiences with that music.
and I may add.. I've seen many a young lady at prog shows.. what I think is rather common though, especiailly in the non hip-hop category which is more a cultural thing than a musical thing.. is for many in the younger generation.. genres.. are really quite irrelevant.
I rememeber making this point at a prog show my wife went to.. we were seated right next to a bunch of rather.. young..  ladies.. who probably had zero concept or notion that what they were seeing was considered prog. They were there.. and loving the concert simply because it was great music.
something perhaps to ponder.. and again.. welcome to the site. |
Although I appreciate the words you have provided me to ponder, this is all of what I have pondered before turning to a forum. I am, although in my 20's and born in the age of technology, not computer literate. Choosing to turn to the internet was a hard choice to make.
I have been to a lowballed number of 150 shows, mostly progressive rock. I have been going to shows at Orion Sound Studios since I moved to Maryland when I was 5. I see females at more mainstream prog shows, Anathema, Porcupine Tree, etc. I don't think I am socially developed enough yet to just talk to people at shows?
I think it is easier to brush off connecting with other humans about music when you are older; meaning that you have a more developed sense of identity, and also DO have a community in which you can share music with people who are in the same stage of life as yourself. Older people also seem to "not give f*ck".
It is not that I care what other people think, because for the most part I don't. But for millennia music has been something that bonds peoples and their cultures. It was hard to be 11 years old and not have that kind of cultural connection (being told listening to something as mainstream as The Red Hot Chili Peppers was "old people music"). Being laughed at that my music was "sh*tty". And despite that, I continued to listen to what I liked... Young people don't have as much of a developed sense of self. And reaching out to the group is obviously common, as other people have mentioned how their children have veered towards hip hop and the likes.
Knowing you can share the experience of music you love is something very special.
Sorry for the essay. College, amiright?
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Posted By: micky
Date Posted: August 02 2019 at 15:30
hah.. I like you. No bullsh*t in you. Interesting we have likely met.. most likely definitely have your parents.. we (Raff and I) are close, local to you and vets of many shows at the Orion as well as Progday and Nearfest.
In fact.. I had a suspicion of who you might be right from first seeing the thread. As I have one met lady about your age with two big time prog fans from the MD area. Anyhow.. I like the way you think.. and talk.
Do stick around!
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Posted By: khonfusedkhemist
Date Posted: August 02 2019 at 15:43
micky wrote:
hah.. I like you. No bullsh*t in you. Interesting we have likely met.. most likely definitely have your parents.. we (Raff and I) are close, local to you and vets of many shows at the Orion as well as Progday and Nearfest.
In fact.. I had a suspicion of who you might be right from first seeing the thread. As I have one met lady about your age with two big time prog fans from the MD area. Anyhow.. I like the way you think.. and talk.
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I don't doubt that we have met. And I feel as if my parents know everyone ("they go hard in the scene"). They go to festivals in Europe too. Also, my dad will talk to you forever about anything.. if that helps with identification. I am not using my first name here, because this is the internet after all.
I was talking to someone not in my family about how I felt about music and friends, and they are the one to suggest turning to a forum. So, that is what I'm doing!
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Posted By: micky
Date Posted: August 02 2019 at 15:59
bingo.. smart move. No first names unless you are ass kickers and tough guys like me...and would actually enjoy the excitement of some soon to be dead idiot trying to get into our place and steal my stuff.
The forum here is an interesting one.. I've been here for quite a few years and really enjoy the people here. Probably more than they enjoy me hahaha.. a lot of smart people of various tastes. My suggestion.. don't be shy.. just jump in and share your thoughts on the topics that interest you. The forum can appear to be a bit rough around the edges.. but it is just a charade to scare away Dream Theater fans from ever coming back. The truth is .. most here are really big teddy bears and would love to talk at you and talk the music they love, you love, and best yet perhaps turn you on to stuff you might not know yet. Though I suspect you have had a very rigourous exposure.
sh*t.. I'd bet you probably know more than many here!
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Posted By: Atavachron
Date Posted: August 02 2019 at 17:13
micky wrote:
-- a lot of smart people of various tastes. My suggestion.. don't be shy.. just jump in and share your thoughts on the topics that interest you. The forum can appear to be a bit rough around the edges.. but it is just a charade to scare away Dream Theater fans from ever coming back. The truth is .. most here are really big teddy bears and would love to talk at you and talk the music they love, you love, and best yet perhaps turn you on to stuff you might not know yet. Though I suspect you have had a very rigourous exposure. | Good advice ~
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Posted By: BaldJean
Date Posted: August 02 2019 at 17:59
I am female and was into prog from my childhood on due to my hippie
parents. but I was in my 20s in the 90s. so you could be my daughter.
welcome here, my girl 
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Posted By: Atavachron
Date Posted: August 02 2019 at 18:05
Now I want to name a band Progdaughter.
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Posted By: micky
Date Posted: August 02 2019 at 18:58
Atavachron wrote:
Now I want to name a band Progdaughter.
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hah.. do you one better my friend.. keeping it real in love and appreciation of our much beloved Maryland proggers... (quite a crew actually)
Progdaughter and the Baking Broads..
all male band of course.... dude. we'd rake in the gigs.. everyone wants to hear a falling down drunk cover of Close to the Edge done by a bunch of middle aged guys..
in drag
for micky in a low cut black dress in heels wielding my Rickenbacker.. oh god.. a true force of nature.. oh yes.. we'd bring back rock and roll in all its 70's debauched glory.. umm hmmm
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Posted By: Atavachron
Date Posted: August 02 2019 at 19:09
micky wrote:
Atavachron wrote:
Now I want to name a band Progdaughter. |
hah.. do you one better my friend.. keeping it real in love and appreciation of our much beloved Maryland proggers... (quite a crew actually)
Progdaughter and the Baking Broads..
all male band of course.... dude. we'd rake in the gigs.. everyone wants to hear a falling down drunk cover of Close to the Edge done by a bunch of middle aged guys..
in drag |
Of course they do. Two words: chick magnet.
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Posted By: Yo-yo
Date Posted: September 18 2019 at 16:18
Ah, what a delightfully relatable post have I found I'm also female, also in my 20s and absolutely, it seems impossible to find someone around in real life, in the age group, with similar music tastes. Makes it difficult to go see bands live when I have to do a fair share of convincing to make any of my friends join, and don't really have close family members in the scene either. Located rather far away, but yeah, here's me, another younger girl really into prog, nice to meet you khonfusedkhemist (great nickname indeed!)
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Posted By: siLLy puPPy
Date Posted: September 18 2019 at 16:47
Nogbad_The_Bad wrote:
Progdaughter at RIO
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Is that you out of your cow gear?
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