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spookytooth
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Posted: October 01 2010 at 08:05 |
Personally, I think marriage is rather silly. However, I do understand why people marry. Still, I think it's fine if a couple lives together before they marry. I really see nothing wrong with it.
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harmonium.ro
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Posted: October 01 2010 at 07:58 |
There must something in the water in Ireland, though, and I can't figure out what it is
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harmonium.ro
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Posted: October 01 2010 at 07:41 |
Mr ProgFreak wrote:
@harmonium.ro: Yes, but married couples get tax benefits on top of the benefits for the children. IMO it would be better to abolish the tax benefits for married couples and instead focus on the raising children part - preferably also including some form of training courses for parenting which the parents have to participate in in order to receive the benefits.
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I think that marriage is encouraged this way exactly because it's traditionally considered a fundamental step towards raising a family; I don't think there are states encouraging marriage just for itself. I agree that this kind of discrimination probably relies on the older perception that marriage is the way to raise a family and people who don't marry are probably not interested in family life, which is not true anymore. The way France addapted to the new times was to "legalize" non-marriage; you can register a concubinaje and you get the same legal status to that of a marriage (including the benefits). It is only a half-measure, but it does work well; it, combined with the benefits offered for having children, makes France have the second highest birth rate in the EU (why does Germany have the lowest birth rate in the EU? )
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The Hemulen
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Posted: October 01 2010 at 07:41 |
Dean wrote:
^^ nah, tax the breaders, don't reward them |
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Dean
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Posted: October 01 2010 at 07:40 |
Mr ProgFreak wrote:
^ Well, in countries which are suffering from overpopulation that might be the solution.
@harmonium.ro: Yes, but married couples get tax benefits on top of the benefits for the children. IMO it would be better to abolish the tax benefits for married couples and instead focus on the raising children part - preferably also including some form of training courses for parenting which the parents have to participate in in order to receive the benefits.
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Demographically each country has an overpopulation "problem" in some social stratas and an underpopulation "problem" in others - I think that is the natural order of things and not something that should be subject to tax benefits. Rewarding breading, or punishing those that exercises (birth) control, doesn't solve the problem or create it.
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Mr ProgFreak
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Posted: October 01 2010 at 07:26 |
^ Well, in countries which are suffering from overpopulation that might be the solution.
@harmonium.ro: Yes, but married couples get tax benefits on top of the benefits for the children. IMO it would be better to abolish the tax benefits for married couples and instead focus on the raising children part - preferably also including some form of training courses for parenting which the parents have to participate in in order to receive the benefits.
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Epignosis
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Posted: October 01 2010 at 07:26 |
mystic fred wrote:
Living together before being married is like opening all your Christmas presents in November....
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Marriage first. No surprise from me.
But I believe in divorce even less than I do cohabitation before marriage.
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Dean
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Posted: October 01 2010 at 07:22 |
^^ nah, tax the breaders, don't reward them
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harmonium.ro
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Posted: October 01 2010 at 07:03 |
Mr ProgFreak wrote:
Personally I think that people should get tax benefits for raising children - not for living together, marriage or not.
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But they are, in most countries that I know. Isn't this happening in Germany too?
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Mr ProgFreak
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Posted: October 01 2010 at 06:58 |
They should definitely live together first ... and if they don't marry, that's fine with me, too. Personally I think that people should get tax benefits for raising children - not for living together, marriage or not.
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Dean
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Posted: October 01 2010 at 05:56 |
Commitment and Compromise - the paper work is irrelevant.
I would be two-faced and hypocritical if I objected to my 19yo daughter shacking-up with her boyfriend - what my personal feelings are towards it could be a different matter but that would also be true if they were getting married. My daughter is 20 and is moving in with her bf - I'm actually rather pleased for them.
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harmonium.ro
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Posted: October 01 2010 at 05:44 |
JJ is full of wisdom as always
Voted 1st
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JJLehto
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Posted: October 01 2010 at 03:26 |
progkidjoel wrote:
JJLehto wrote:
I dont think marriage should be scrapped, again whatever works for ya, but I don't see it as a sacred thing. I do think its a good, and would be nice.
But if I ended up just living with someone without marriage, whatevs
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Pretty much exactly what I think.
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Way I see it. I would love it if I could spend the rest of my life with some I love. Whether its made "official" with marriage or we just live together, doesn't mean much to me.
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progkidjoel
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Posted: October 01 2010 at 03:21 |
JJLehto wrote:
I dont think marriage should be scrapped, again whatever works for ya, but I don't see it as a sacred thing. I do think its a good, and would be nice.
But if I ended up just living with someone without marriage, whatevs
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Pretty much exactly what I think.
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Any Colour You Like
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Posted: October 01 2010 at 03:17 |
Marriage is archaic.
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someone_else
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Posted: October 01 2010 at 03:15 |
I vote for the second option. It's what I practised myself and I have never regretted it.
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JJLehto
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Posted: October 01 2010 at 03:05 |
I dont think marriage should be scrapped, again whatever works for ya, but I don't see it as a sacred thing. I do think its a good, and would be nice.
But if I ended up just living with someone without marriage, whatevs
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Vompatti
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Posted: October 01 2010 at 02:58 |
It depends on how easy it'll be to get a divorce, I guess. Voted for the third option.
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Tapfret
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Posted: October 01 2010 at 02:31 |
Gender roles were very clearly defined for most of human history. Our roles in life have become so complex in comparison it is fairly irresponsible to not at least have some trial time playing house to evaluate domestic compatibility. Many fail to understand the difference between interdependency and codependency. A successful relationship requires interdependency, which is impossible without an understanding of which partner will take on the various roles in the household. Something as simple as hating to take out the garbage can send the relationship into a tailspin. For the love of god, don't get married until you know that at least one of you is willing to take out the garbage.
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mystic fred
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Posted: October 01 2010 at 01:47 |
Living together before being married is like opening all your Christmas presents in November....
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