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Poll Question: Cohabitation, shacking, whatever the term, do you approve?
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I'm not religious, therefor marriage means absolutely nothing to me...it's basically like...well we're in a relationship.  If we get married we'll be in a relationship and a church says its okay.....
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Originally posted by Padraic Padraic wrote:

Originally posted by Dean Dean wrote:

Originally posted by Negoba Negoba wrote:

Originally posted by Dean Dean wrote:

 
So, yeah, my wife and I had a "test drive" for a couple of years before marrying, but it was the only one we had and we didn't have alternative models lined-up for test drives should there have been any defects in build-quality or handling - sure prior to meeting each other we had take other's for a spin around the block, looked under the hood, checked the lubrication and kicked the spare tyre but beyond that no test drives were necessary.
 
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Considering modern society, I think it's best for people to get to know their partner in that way before tying the legal knot!
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on topic:  we lived together before getting married, seemed to work out alright.

not much more I can say besides that.
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Points: 31165 		Direct Link To This Post Posted: October 03 2010 at 21:39
Originally posted by Dean Dean wrote:

Originally posted by Negoba Negoba wrote:

Originally posted by Dean Dean wrote:

 
So, yeah, my wife and I had a "test drive" for a couple of years before marrying, but it was the only one we had and we didn't have alternative models lined-up for test drives should there have been any defects in build-quality or handling - sure prior to meeting each other we had take other's for a spin around the block, looked under the hood, checked the lubrication and kicked the spare tyre but beyond that no test drives were necessary.
 
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June, I live at home and I still put my dirty underwear in the hamper by myself, will you sleep with me?
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Points: 28057 		Direct Link To This Post Posted: October 03 2010 at 20:48
Originally posted by June June wrote:

Originally posted by stonebeard stonebeard wrote:

Originally posted by June June wrote:

Originally posted by Slartibartfast Slartibartfast wrote:

Originally posted by ExittheLemming ExittheLemming wrote:

Marry whenever you like but live apart and just visit on the weekends. Much more fun and something to look forward to.Wink

And never have sex because abstinence makes the heart grow fonder. LOL


As far as I'm concerned, any guy in my life is more likely to get laid if I don't have to pick up his dirty underwear or cook for him every damn night... Tongue


But to be realistic, that's like bumping his chances from 1% to 3%. Tongue



Can I assume you're making a generalisation about women here?



 I wasn't trying to. Only supposing the mere act of not leaving dirty underwear everywhere wouldn't get the guy to 100% assured Laidsville. I dunno I guess my wise cracking was off that day.
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Originally posted by stonebeard stonebeard wrote:

Originally posted by June June wrote:

Originally posted by Slartibartfast Slartibartfast wrote:

Originally posted by ExittheLemming ExittheLemming wrote:

Marry whenever you like but live apart and just visit on the weekends. Much more fun and something to look forward to.Wink

And never have sex because abstinence makes the heart grow fonder. LOL


As far as I'm concerned, any guy in my life is more likely to get laid if I don't have to pick up his dirty underwear or cook for him every damn night... Tongue


But to be realistic, that's like bumping his chances from 1% to 3%. Tongue



Can I assume you're making a generalisation about women here?

Actually, based on my own long-distance relationship, to be honest, having to cook for him a few nights in a row would be a nice change of pace.

I voted for the last option, by the way, but if we ever decide to go through with this thing, it's likely I'll be in the same kind of situation as Mickey and Raff, which is kind of ironic.


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Originally posted by June June wrote:

Originally posted by Slartibartfast Slartibartfast wrote:

Originally posted by ExittheLemming ExittheLemming wrote:

Marry whenever you like but live apart and just visit on the weekends. Much more fun and something to look forward to.Wink

And never have sex because abstinence makes the heart grow fonder. LOL


As far as I'm concerned, any guy in my life is more likely to get laid if I don't have to pick up his dirty underwear or cook for him every damn night... Tongue


But to be realistic, that's like bumping his chances from 1% to 3%. Tongue
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Originally posted by Slartibartfast Slartibartfast wrote:

Originally posted by ExittheLemming ExittheLemming wrote:

Marry whenever you like but live apart and just visit on the weekends. Much more fun and something to look forward to.Wink

And never have sex because abstinence makes the heart grow fonder. LOL


As far as I'm concerned, any guy in my life is more likely to get laid if I don't have to pick up his dirty underwear or cook for him every damn night... Tongue
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Originally posted by ExittheLemming ExittheLemming wrote:

Marry whenever you like but live apart and just visit on the weekends. Much more fun and something to look forward to.Wink

And never have sex because abstinence makes the heart grow fonder. LOL
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Marriage means absolutely nothing to me. So, why would I speak in its favor. 

You know my answer. Wink
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the last option


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Marriage is an anachronistic element in our society so I voted the third.
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Originally posted by CPicard CPicard wrote:

Originally posted by harmonium.ro harmonium.ro wrote:

Originally posted by CPicard CPicard wrote:

Neither mariage, nor living together.
Male or female, everyone should stay at home and watching TV alone. And feeling miserable for the long week-end.


Well, in fact, this is what I had to go through for a long time now, and I don't see why anyone should be happy kissing, having sex, sharing meals and dates, while I'm sad and alone !!!!


But there's always your brother, right?

Tongue


The fact that you're talking about my brother right after I'm complaining about the lack of female presence in my life... Dude, that's just plain wrong on SO many levels! DeadDeadDeadDeadDeadDead

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Originally posted by harmonium.ro harmonium.ro wrote:

Originally posted by CPicard CPicard wrote:

Neither mariage, nor living together.
Male or female, everyone should stay at home and watching TV alone. And feeling miserable for the long week-end.


Well, in fact, this is what I had to go through for a long time now, and I don't see why anyone should be happy kissing, having sex, sharing meals and dates, while I'm sad and alone !!!!


But there's always your brother, right?

Tongue


The fact that you're talking about my brother right after I'm complaining about the lack of female presence in my life... Dude, that's just plain wrong on SO many levels! DeadDeadDeadDeadDeadDead
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Points: 24392 		Direct Link To This Post Posted: October 01 2010 at 16:37
Interesting poll! Personally, I would tend to be in favour of option #1, though I am well aware that living together before marriage is not a magic recipe for a solid union. In my particular case, though, we were not really given the choice, since we had to get married for immigration purposes. It would have been the same had Micky decided to move to Italy, even if other countries allow people to immigrate even without being married. Anyway, I am not against marriage per se, and I recognize that it has its benefits - though I don't believe that a piece of paper makes a difference as regards the solidity of a couple. 
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Originally posted by CPicard CPicard wrote:

Neither mariage, nor living together.
Male or female, everyone should stay at home and watching TV alone. And feeling miserable for the long week-end.


Well, in fact, this is what I had to go through for a long time now, and I don't see why anyone should be happy kissing, having sex, sharing meals and dates, while I'm sad and alone !!!!


But there's always your brother, right?

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Originally posted by harmonium.ro harmonium.ro wrote:

JJ is full of wisdom as always

Voted 1st


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Originally posted by Finnforest Finnforest wrote:

A few things.

Let's include gays/lesbians in this by stating hypothetically that the poll assumes gay marriage is legal.  I realize it is not everywhere, but let's pose the same question for gays and straights by assuming it is.

I'm curious about this.  If you vote cohabitation is good, would you feel the same way if your 19 year old daughter came to you and announced her intentions to move in with boyfriend?

If you vote no way, is it because you feel it is morally wrong, or because you believe the studies that claim people who cohabitate first have a greater chance of breaking up after they marry. 

Wait a minute. I'm not big supporter of G/L marriages (I respect them though), but they're legal in my country. It's not legal in USA ? Well, if there are religious weddings, then it is catholic one (the most prevalent religion here), but I suppose that G/L doesn't take these, but rather take the ones at town halls. I don't really know, just theory.

Anyway Jim, moral differs as countries society and values, traditions differ. Marriage is not important here that much, the important thing is to be happy with the one you're with. If you're not happy, ending the relationship is way more easier. However, this has bad side too, people sometimes don't try hard enough to cure their relationship, as they would in marriage.

There is bad side of marriage as well. People sometimes grow confident enough that the other one won't leave him/her, so they do stuff they wouldn't dare to do in normal relationship, where they're not "confined" to each other.


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